Relax

Is it that simple? They just tell you to chill and enjoy when you are in so much pain.... Yes that's right, but do they feel your pain? Not really, hardly anyone knows about it....well than lets be logical about it. What logic? It hurts so much....So hard to overcome it all.....No one is helping....

Well that's the root of the problem.....You need help. I have been trying to get some help but you see everyone is so busy grappling with their own issues, they don't have time for you. Issues? What issues? Are they in pain too? Yes may be some of them are.....They don't seem to have it.......Well they don't show it.....Did you try to find out? how? Well if you get to know them, have more friends.... You know; you will know about their pain and their joys as well.

Really? I don't have many friends.... I have never had many friends...Well what about your family? I have none. What do you mean by that? Everyone seems to have someone or the other, who they can talk to and may be share a few tender moments with....

Well I never cared for tender moments.... I was a very successful professional....made lot of money.....Well that is great, you were/ may be are rich... So why not chill, relax and be happy? Well, you don't know it's not that simple..I can't relax with so much to think about and all the problems coming up at the same time...

You must maintain a positive attitude, I mean be really happy...

Happy, how? no one seems to care now, I am in pain and yet no one bothers to ask me how I am feeling? Well get an appointment with your therapist.....talk to her, that will help. I have tried that....Well that must have helped, didn't it? didn't help much.....Why? How So?

She is a very busy professional; gave me a twenty minute session, I was trying to explain how I was feeling....couldn't tell her the whole story in twenty minutes and then the time was up she told me to come again, get another appointment after one month, What will I do till then? Who is there to listen...Understand what I am going through.....

time for some introspection? What introspection? What do you mean by that? Well chill, relax.....Well see I can't, don't know- how?

Well try this.....Sit comfortably.....take a deep breathe in count 1,2, 3 and exhale.....repeat the process....five or six times....Feeling better? Yes indeed! Well stand up now....look out of the window....See that beautiful blue sky and few clouds scattered over it....Yes, isn't it beautiful? Yes, maybe...never thought about it before..Well you didn't bother to look at it...see you were too busy....Do you see those trees and their leaves waving gently in that lovely breeze.....Yes now I see it all....

Well then you are on the road to happiness...Put on those sneakers and go out for a walk.....smile at and say hello to every one you meet.....make some friends....Soon you will be chilling and relaxing...all the pain will go away...A few more suggestions try visiting the local library and looking up some good books, or you could just drive up to the local mall and hang around, do some window shopping, You could also get membership of a local gym do some work out or join a yoga class. Yoga is known to help in physical as well as mental relaxation. Foremost- make some good friends. And final advice...never ignore those tender moments.....They bring all the joy and relaxation that anyone can possibly imagine...

Is it that simple? Yes indeed my friend, It's easy to make friends if you care for others or show interest in small aspects of their lives....Those moments may appear insignificant but are essential for a relaxed mind.

The satisfaction and relaxation that is achieved through helping the needy is much more long lasting than relaxation through self indulgence. It's Ok to be self indulgent occasionally but if you have the resources to help others you will be more happier and relaxed than otherwise..

Don't believe it? Well try it and see the results immediately...